Car advertising: Mercedes in good condition, with extras and leather seat is for sale.

It's not a joke! It's serious and we're looking for a partner and we buy a car like that. Based on external qualities!

Who is interested in a correspondence, what kind of housewife my potential partner is, how opened she is for knowledge, can she give and receive love? Not a word is said about it. In fact, it would be in vain if only positive words would be exchanged without any truth. One point comes always: do we fuck or not?

In case of Mercedes, no one is interested in the description of the power transmission, the operation of gearbox and any other presentation which gives the actual contents of the machine. The point is the leather seat and the extras! If the car goes wrong somewhere, you can fuck the extras and seats!

Appearances have become essential! The content cannot be found because it no longer exists. There is a focus on the compliance to neighbors by outward appearances, bringing to life the envy, competition for nothing, and all this leads to the total emptiness.

Politics is not producing norms, it joins to the existing norms for seeking popularity in order to gain votes, so it strengthens the processes. While other institutes what should create norms are going to hide under the wings of politics for taking advantages.

Politics and the criminal organizations under their control, such as churches, are bringing about the degradation of our societies. They destroy exactly what should be built and protected. This is the family. The quality of the family depends on the suitability of the couples. I don't mean their biological capacity, but their suitability in regard of spirituality, responsibility, and consciousness.

Their suitability of couples doesn't depend on their votes in order to get a subsidy or a discounted loan, but how they endure the hardships of life and how they give joyful experiences to each other during a lifetime. And nice experiences have to be found not only in the outside world but also in each other. In an empty society, this is becoming increasingly difficult. After all, joyful experience can be based only on content. Where do we start? Let's get away from politics, stay close to family. Here we can do our best for the improvement. The parent-child relationship is decisive:

Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. (Quran 17:23)

The spiritual and moral duties are now brought into juxtaposition. We are to worship none but Allah, because none but Allah is worthy of worship, not because "the Lord thy God is a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate Me" (Exod. 20:5).

I've quoted the Exodus of the Bible for comparison. In Judaism, the sin of the fathers overshadows the lives of the sons for many generations. This is not confessed by Islam. In Islam, everyone is responsible only for his/her own sin.

And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood." (Quran 17:24)

The metaphor is that of a high-flying bird which lowers her wing out of tenderness to her offspring.

There is a double aptness. 1. When the parent was strong and the child was helpless, parental affection was showered on the child: when the child grows up and is strong, and the parent is helpless, can he do less than bestow similar tender care on the parent? 2. But more: he must approach the matter with gentle humility: for does not parental love, remind him of the great love with which Allah cherishes His creatures? There is something here more than simple human gratitude; it goes up into the highest spiritual region.

The aya above calls for patience and forgiveness towards the parent, even if he/she has a different view and sees the world differently. Remember, this aya was revealed 1400 years ago when a parent could be an unbeliever, an idol worshiper, and the child a believer! It was an essential difference at the time! Huge guidance! In contrast, today family can break due to party preferences or much lesser differences.

If we understand the importance of family, we need to know who is most worthy for our respect. Islam is regarded by many people as a religion oppressing woman. Here is the word of the Prophet (peace be upon him) about the mother, the woman who gives life. After Allah, the mother is the first! But not only the first, but the second, and even the third! Father comes only after her:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

A man came to Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) and said, "O Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him)! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?" The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Your mother." The man said. "Who is next?" The Prophet said, "Your mother." The man further said, "Who is next?" The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Your mother." The man asked for the fourth time, "Who is next?" The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Your father. "

Classification: Sahih, authentic

Reference: Sahih Bukhari, Book of Good Manners and Form (Adab), Hadith 5973.

The question arises here: In an age where the relationship between man and woman is limited to a sexual intercourse and everyone goes on his/her own way afterwards, how much valid is the above hadith? And the problem here it is not with the hadith, but with us who live in this age! Let's agree that there are exceptions for whom the hadith still valid and we should strive to increase the validity of the words of our prophet (peace be upon him) in our family, society.